I was recently having this conversation with one of my single female friends. Where do you go to meet potentially date-able men? It will be getting warm soon and I want someone to take me to Lotte World. ^____^

I do not really want to meet guys on the internet. While it’s nice to get an idea of what someone is like before you agree to actually meet them, the pictures most people put of themselves on the internet are misleading, and you could end up stuck on a date with a really weird creepy guy whose weirdness evaded your senses through your text-based conversation. I did meet two guys online here in Seoul, and one was Romeo (who was kind of crazy, but in an innocent and misguided way) and the other ended up being kind of a crazy stalker and strangely obsessed with me (as in, over a year after our third and last date, still attempting to contact me from random phone numbers since I blocked his number long ago.)

I am not against meeting someone in a bar or a club but I do not think these places are really conducive for lengthy conversations. Plus, at 2 AM on a Saturday night, most men are not really looking to meet women they can take out on nice dates and actually get to know. 

I am really at a loss for how to meet a nice person in Seoul. I have my language partner and the really tall cute guy who lives near me to fulfill my need for Korean Man Time, and all my foreign male friends to talk about bro stuff with, but I think it would be really nice to have a boyfriend as well. I like going to movies and holding hands and taking couple selcas and buying presents out of the blue and all that other cute couple stuff. Unfortunately my friend group is pretty closed off and none of us are big on meeting new people. I’m wondering if I should join a language exchange (like CulCom- I need to study Korean more, anyway) or join some sort of activity group, like the Seoul Hikers, to meet people. Unfortunately, I do not really regularly practice any hobbies, much less hobbies that would appeal to most men, so I’m not sure how I can translate something I’m interested in into an opportunity to meet some new people. 

I am really curious how other people have met their boyfriends. In my group of friends, dating apps, language exchanges, and, for one friend, a very successful night in NB in Gangnam have led to some very cute long-term relationships. 

I still have not lost hope in the Fashion Guy, but he is way too busy working and rarely messages me and I’ve been through that once before and am not interested in dating someone too busy for me again. And I still think the US army guy is cute, although he changed his Facebook status to “This is so gay” which was a big turn-off for me.