I swear, I am a really polite person, but old Korean women turn me into a monster. This morning an old woman got on my always very crowded bus at rush hour and stood right in front of the exit door with both arms out holding onto poles, blocking the whole exit. Obviously she was not so frail that she couldnt’ stand on her own seeing as she was clad in a hiking outfit complete with visor, backpack, and boots, obviously on her way to hike somewhere. Then, when the bus stopped at the busiest stop where almost everyone gets off, she just refused to move… I was standing right behind her and I said “excuse me” and a bunch of other people said it, too, and she turned around and looked at us and still didn’t move… so I just took her hand (shriveled old crone talon), physically removed it from the pole, and elbowed my way out of the bus. No regrets. I mean, I feel kind of bad since she was old, but you know she wouldn’t have thought twice about elbowing me and stepping on my toes if I was between her and an empty seat on the subway. When in Rome. Push, shove, and be rude to others as the elderly Romans do!
Pickles, cupcakes, animal prints, flower patterns, Pokemon!
It’s not so bad… the kids are pretty good and better behaved than all my friends’ students seem to be. The problem is my coworkers… after the first week no one made an effort to be friendly to me, and I would hear everyone saying in Korean that they hated English so I just stopped forcing them to talk to me. Even when I smile at people I’m walking by, they just look away and pretend they don’t see me. Essentially, I don’t exist here, which is a big change from my old school where I liked and was really close with all my co-teachers. Even the other teachers in the school were nice to me, even if they were old and spoke zero English. Also, my one CT in particular has yelled at me for insignificant reasons numerous times and ignores me when I try to talk to her and I don’t even ask her for help anymore since the one time I did she said “I don’t want to” and that was that. But the worst thing to me is how loud the office is because it affects my productivity. I just want to do my job at my job. Hardly anyone ever does work and I’ve never heard grown adults be so loud in my life. There’s never a moment of silence in the office. It’s like a never-ending shrieking gossip party here. And I know that people might not be friendly to me because I don’t join in on the constant snacking that happens every day, but I’m just not hungry for ramyeon at 8:30AM or pizza and chicken two hours after we’ve eaten lunch. I really struggle to get any work done. I’ve started getting to work at the last possible second because I don’t want to be stuck sitting at my desk, trying to do work, while someone screams to unni about Starbucks coffee at the top of her voice over my head for twenty minutes. I know it sounds mean, and it’s not like I really dislike anyone, I just dislike how loud and, in my eyes, unprofessional they act. I can be loud and talkative, too. Just not at work. So, to summarize, every day is like a big noisy party to which I am not invited. I wish my desk was in an office with one or two other people like most of my friends. Also I think my ideal place of work is a dark, empty cave.
It depends on how the breakup was. For example, I broke up with my first Korean boyfriend here because he didn’t make time for me and hardly ever would meet me (sound familiar, ladies?) A few months later I agreed to meet him again because he said he would change his ways, but when it became clear that he wasn’t going to, I stopped talking to him. Then a few months later, because I am too forgiving and nice to deadbeat dudes, I agreed to meet him again, and the whole process repeated itself 3 times. The last time was really the last straw, though. If he messages me again I am going to be really, really mean to him.
Korean players will keep you in their phone books and message you every few months like clockwork, even if they have a girlfriend, just to keep you in their “fish bowl.” That way, when they’re single or don’t have any plans on a Friday night and you’re their obvious last resort, it doesn’t seem weird for them to ask you out. Late at night messages are never a good sign. If it’s late at night he’s probably been drinking, and he wouldn’t have messaged you if he wasn’t. And if he really wanted to talk to you, he would have messaged you at a normal time. The signs don’t look good! Tell him you hope he has a good memory, because he will never see you again.^^
PS~ how unsurprising is this? A week ago I changed my Kakao Talk picture from a far away one to a selca in which I look pretty decent and since then FOUR Korean guys I haven’t talked to in over a year have messaged me asking if I “have time” to meet. NOPENOPENOPE.